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Staying Sober During the Holidays: Tips for Managing Stress and Temptations

  • Writer: Brian A. Tessier, MSW, LCSW
    Brian A. Tessier, MSW, LCSW
  • Nov 30
  • 3 min read

The holiday season often brings joy, family gatherings, and celebrations. Yet, for many, it also brings stress and temptations that can challenge sobriety. The pressure to drink socially, combined with emotional ups and downs, can make staying sober feel overwhelming. This post offers practical advice to help you manage stress and maintain your commitment to sobriety during these trying times.


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Understand Your Triggers


Knowing what situations or feelings increase your urge to drink is the first step in managing them. Common triggers during the holidays include:


  • Social pressure at parties or family gatherings

  • Feelings of loneliness or isolation

  • Stress from planning or financial concerns

  • Nostalgia or memories linked to drinking


Write down your personal triggers and plan how to handle them. For example, if social pressure is a trigger, prepare polite but firm responses to decline drinks.


Create a Support Network


Having people who understand your commitment to sobriety can make a big difference. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who respect your choice. Consider:


  • Attending local or online sobriety meetings

  • Connecting with a sponsor or mentor

  • Sharing your goals with trusted loved ones


Support networks provide encouragement and accountability, especially when temptations arise.


Plan Ahead for Social Events


Holiday parties often revolve around alcohol, but you can enjoy them without drinking. Try these strategies:


  • Bring your own non-alcoholic drinks like sparkling water with fruit or herbal tea

  • Arrive with a clear exit plan if you feel uncomfortable

  • Focus on conversations and activities rather than drinks

  • Volunteer to be the designated driver


Planning helps you stay in control and reduces anxiety about social situations.


Manage Stress with Healthy Habits


Stress can increase the desire to drink, so finding healthy ways to cope is essential. Some effective methods include:


  • Exercise: A brisk walk or yoga session can reduce tension

  • Mindfulness and meditation: These practices calm the mind and improve focus

  • Creative outlets: Writing, drawing, or playing music can express emotions

  • Adequate sleep: Rest supports emotional resilience


Incorporate these habits into your daily routine to build strength against stress.


Set Realistic Expectations


The holidays can be unpredictable. Family dynamics, travel delays, or unexpected events may cause frustration. Accepting that not everything will go perfectly helps reduce stress. Remind yourself:


  • You do not need to please everyone

  • It is okay to say no or take breaks

  • Your sobriety is a priority over holiday perfection


Setting boundaries protects your well-being and keeps you grounded.


Find New Traditions


Replacing old habits with new, sober traditions can make the holidays more meaningful. Ideas include:


  • Hosting a game night or movie marathon

  • Cooking a special meal with loved ones

  • Volunteering for a cause you care about

  • Taking a nature walk or visiting a local attraction


New traditions create positive memories and reduce the focus on alcohol.


Use Technology for Support


Apps and online communities offer tools to support sobriety. Some helpful resources provide:


  • Daily motivational messages

  • Tracking sober days and milestones

  • Access to virtual meetings and chats

  • Tips for managing cravings


Technology can be a convenient way to stay connected and motivated.


Practice Self-Compassion


Maintaining sobriety during the holidays is challenging. Be kind to yourself if you feel overwhelmed or slip up. Instead of harsh judgment:


  • Reflect on what led to the moment

  • Identify lessons learned

  • Reach out for support if needed

  • Renew your commitment to sobriety


Self-compassion fosters resilience and long-term success.


Recognize When to Seek Professional Help


If holiday stress feels unmanageable or cravings become intense, professional help can provide guidance. Consider:


  • Talking to a counselor or therapist experienced in addiction

  • Joining structured outpatient programs

  • Consulting your healthcare provider about treatment options


Getting help is a sign of strength and a step toward lasting wellness.



 
 
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